Good Night, Sugarbear

Dear Friends,

Early on the morning of Saturday, October 27th, 2007, my dear wife Lori passed away in the comfort of our home, surrounded by her closest loved ones, her three beloved dogs, and in absolute and perfect peace.

This incredible woman––whom I count myself blessed to have even known, let alone loved and betrothed––outlived her diagnosis by a full five years, and managed to live a fuller life during that precious time than many will experience in an entire lifetime.

Together, and with the love and support of an amazing group of family and friends (including all of you,) Lori & I managed to travel to the far reaches of the world during a time when others would have simply given up in despair.

In 2004 we spent three weeks on the enchanting island of Bali, in Indonesia, with short stops in Japan as well. Over the years, and in direct opposition of her doctors, we also took a full three trips to the Big Island of Hawaii––to the tiny town of Hawi, and the even tinier little shack called Whale Crossing, which became to us a home away from home, and will ultimately be home to at least some of Lori's ashes.

Reading back through this blog, I am continually stunned by my wife's candid nature. By the way in which she shared every piece of her soul for the benefit of herself and others. By the grace with which she carried herself through this long, long trial. And by the hopes and prayers we have received from people like you, all over the world.

Too Sexy For My Hair, and the respective groups she founded on Flickr, were a constant source of support for Lori, and ultimately, I believe I owe you all a debt of gratitude that can never be repaid.

In the end, my dear wife beat her disease by simply leaving it behind––in the words of a beloved friend and teacher, her body couldn't hold her down any longer.

For Lori, the pain and fear have subsided now, and in that I take great comfort.

I hope that you can too... it's the way she would have wanted it.

God Bless,
––Cary